Narcissistic Traits

Narcissists don’t target your empathy—they target your longing. That ache to be chosen, protected, and seen isn’t weakness. It’s a wound that deserves care, not shame. Healing means reclaiming the part of you that still hopes—and learning to meet it yourself.

Avoidant attachment can look like narcissism, but the story underneath is completely different. Both can leave you feeling unseen, rejected, and questioning your worth—but a narcissist pulls away for control, while an avoidant partner pulls away out of fear.

If you want to know how to spot a narcissist, here’s the truth: there’s no instant test. The skilled ones hide it well. But almost everyone I’ve worked with admits—they felt something was off early on. It’s rarely a blaring siren. More often, it’s a flicker in your gut. The key isn’t spotting every red flag—it’s learning not to silence that inner alarm when it goes off.