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You might be wondering if therapy is really worth it. Maybe you’ve been stuck in a toxic relationship or feel weighed down by patterns...

Honesty in therapy doesn’t always happen right away. Clients often begin with the version of events they feel safe sharing. As trust grows, so does openness. From a therapist’s perspective, uncovering the truth is a gradual process—and lasting change comes when clients arrive at it themselves.

Generational trauma isn’t just what happened to us—it’s what didn’t get repaired. The silence, the emotional avoidance, the coping mechanisms that once protected us but now quietly shape our parenting. This post explores how healing your own wounds can help stop the cycle and give your child something even more powerful than perfection: a parent who chooses intention over reaction, repair over repetition.

Narcissists don’t target your empathy—they target your longing. That ache to be chosen, protected, and seen isn’t weakness. It’s a wound that deserves care, not shame. Healing means reclaiming the part of you that still hopes—and learning to meet it yourself.

CBT helps change thoughts to shift feelings and behaviors—but it’s only part of the process. Lasting change requires healing the deep emotional wounds beneath those patterns, including hidden, bodily-stored memories. Without this, old survival habits resurface under stress, making new behaviors hard to sustain. True transformation means tending to the roots, not just trimming the branches.

If you’re divorcing a narcissist or going through a high-conflict split, it’s tempting to use your therapy notes to prove the abuse. But the truth is, those same records could hurt you more than help you in court. Here’s why—and safer ways to present evidence without risking the privacy and trust you’ve built in therapy.

Avoidant attachment can look like narcissism, but the story underneath is completely different. Both can leave you feeling unseen, rejected, and questioning your worth—but a narcissist pulls away for control, while an avoidant partner pulls away out of fear.

If you want to know how to spot a narcissist, here’s the truth: there’s no instant test. The skilled ones hide it well. But almost everyone I’ve worked with admits—they felt something was off early on. It’s rarely a blaring siren. More often, it’s a flicker in your gut. The key isn’t spotting every red flag—it’s learning not to silence that inner alarm when it goes off.

What you suppress doesn’t disappear. It lingers—in your body, your reactions, your patterns. It shows up in the way you over-explain when someone looks irritated, over-apologize for things that aren’t your fault, avoid conflict to keep the peace, or shut down when emotions rise. Unprocessed emotions don’t fade with time, they wait for you, quietly shaping how you see yourself and the world around you.